STILL TRIGGERED BY TOXIC MEN?
Get Men Off Your Mind With The Sassiest, Most Beautiful EMDR Tool
Lovingly Built for Successful Career Women Who Refuse to Settle For Crumbs
Go From Men to Zen in 1 Min Flat
ONE-TIME payment. LIFETIME Access.
Installs directly on iPhone, Android & desktop
What if there was a tool that stops man-anxiety on the spot?
Meet De-Men Your Brain
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Now with "Gentle Insult" Mode!
Our women run teams or businesses at work, only to have men run them in life.
Now, just like you, they're refusing to play small.
Hey, I'm Cherlyn.
For 10 years, I've been helping high-achieving women break toxic relationship patterns.
You know how to build a career. Run a business. Lead a team.
But the men you're dating still have the power to ruin your whole day.
It all started with my client Emily... a luxury real estate agent whose ex had her arrested.
When she found out he'd be at their son's baseball game, she was terrified of falling apart in front of him.
Emily had mentioned EMDR helped her in the past.
But every tool out there was so dreadfully clinical. Cold. Boring.
Built for a hospital, not a high-achieving boss babe trying to hold it together day after day.
So I built her one.
She used it right before walking in.
And she was calm. Steady. In control.
Not because she suppressed her feelings...
But because her nervous system was regulated.
That was the moment I knew this needed to exist for every woman like her.
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
This tool uses bilateral stimulation, the core technique from EMDR therapy.
You follow a moving object with your eyes...
While a "ping" sound alternates between your left and right ear...
This dual bilateral stimulation (visual + auditory) activates both brain hemispheres...
Which allows your brain to process the trigger instead of spiraling.
And I made it real pretty too.
Because gosh dang it, we deserve something nice after putting up with THOSE dates.
No subscription. Just one-time payment and it's yours forever.
With the magic of bilateral stimulation, there's no:
No overanalyzing.
No talking to your inner child.
No questioning your childhood.
All You Do Is:
Step 1. Sit
Step 2. Watch
Step 3. Listen
Your nervous system calms down.
The trigger loses its grip.
You get back to your day (and dates!).
Backed by years of research and science.
Therapists have used it for decades to treat PTSD and trauma...
Now it's in your pocket for man-drama.
Use it if you're:
Use it online on your Desktop...
Or download it as a webapp on your mobile phone or tablet.
Resize, reposition, run at different speeds and different directions...
It's all customizable.
Try the guided sessions for different moods:
Perfect for when you want to key his car or you're overthinking at 2am
And these aren't meditation tracks you zone out to.
These are active rewiring sessions...
Where my voice coaches you through powerful reframes...
While bilateral stimulation does the heavy lifting.
Whip it out for any man-situation:
Did some jerk spring the "it's not you, it's me" on you at 2pm?
Handle it before your 3pm meeting.
Obsessing over why he didn't text back?
Detrigger before you send the desperate follow-up.
Anxiety about dating again?
Calm down so you can actually show up.
It's your brain's pocket bouncer... kicking toxic thoughts out in 60 secs flat.
Need to vent?
Turn on the IDGAF mode
One Session = Instant Relief
Multiple Sessions = The Trigger Loses Its Grip
Here's How It Works:
Your newest date texts
Your heart races
You open De-Men
Follow the moving guides across the screen
Hear my voice guide you through
Your nervous system chills the heck out
This isn't therapy.
It's instant emotional regulation for high-functioning career women who refuse to let men ruin their day.
FAQ
The De-Men Your Brain EMDR is for professional, high-achieving women who are done letting men mess up their day...
Whether you're post-breakup and still triggered by your ex...
Or dating again...
But your brain won't stop spiraling over every text, every silence, every "what did he mean by that?".
It's an on-the-spot tool for instant relief.
Unlike full clinical therapy, there's no talking, no analyzing, no digging into your childhood.
Unlike support groups, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
Just press play, follow the moving guides, hear my voice, and your nervous system calms the heck down.
Done at your own time, anywhere, especially in the privacy of your own home.
This is fast detriggering, not months of processing.
Think of it as a treadmill for your brain... fast, effective, and built for women who don't have time to spiral.
You get instant, lifetime access to our full EMDR tool including guided sessions for different moods, Overthinking, Overwhelmed, Frozen/Numb, IDGAF, Triggered/Activated and Fed Up/Done.
Each mood has 3 intensity levels (45 sec, 2 min, or 5 min), from a Quick Zap to a Full System Reboot. 18 different guided sessions in total.
You also get a customizable manual mode where you can resize, reposition, set the scenes and run the EMDR at your own speed.
Use it online on a desktop or download it as a web app on your phone or tablet.
One payment. Lifetime access.
One session = instant relief for 90% of users. You'll feel calmer, more regulated, ready to handle your day.
But one session won't erase years of toxic patterns (just like one workout won't give you abs).
Use it multiple times per trigger, and you'll notice it losing its grip on you.
Some women feel a shift after the first session. Others need a few rounds. Your brain, your pace.
Yes... but ONLY if you're mentally done and planning your exit.
Most of my language is for women who've already left and are dating again, but the tool works the same way: calming your nervous system when he triggers you.
Whether he's an ex or still in your house, your brain doesn't know the difference. It just knows it's activated.
But if you're looking for ways to fix your relationship, stay married, or cope with him long-term... this IS NOT for you.
We help women break the cycle of toxic men, not manage it.
Yes, you can! The tool has two main modes:
Guided Mode is specifically designed for dating/relationship triggers, so about 60% of the language references men. But the bilateral stimulation itself works on your nervous system on ANYTHING that triggers you.
Manual Mode is completely customizable. No words, no voiceovers, just pure bilateral stimulation. You can use it for anything: toxic boss, social anxiety, work stress, family drama, or any moment you need to calm your nervous system.
Most women use Guided for toxic men and Manual for everything else!
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