Driven career women aren't ambitious for no reason.
They are ambitious because they want a financially secure, stable and overall good life.
For their children. For their partners.
A life that's the complete opposite of their traumatic childhood.
A life that they were robbed of since they were born.
By narcissistic, toxic or absent parents.
And these accomplished women truly, deeply believed they had found "the one."
Until he wasn't.
And just like that, he brings to surface every self-doubt, every crippling fear and anxiety we've ever had.
That we're the narcissist ourselves (not true.)
That we can never have true love (also not true.)
That we're not good enough (not true too!)
The type of narcissists who woo accomplished women are either:
- Haplessly incompetent or
- Just as capable, but with one huge personal flaw (drinking, overspending, etc.)
Either way, he breaks us down bit by bit.
The haplessly incompetent narc will romance, then leech and discard.
The capable narc will impress, then be passive-aggressive and blindside.
This is the damage that my clients have tried to heal.
They've tried it all—meds, therapy, self-help seminars and meditation.
And although some of these methods did help...
...most completely didn't work, or didn't make much difference.
And there's a reason why.
The reality is, there's a much deeper, rooted issue.
One that causes all of my clients to stay stuck in self-destructive cycles.
Your Relationship Trauma Type.
Blue Fawn, White Fawn, Red Fawn, Pink Flight, or Double Fawn.
Remember, we're fixers with ambition for a reason.
Every woman I have worked with has experienced significant trauma in past relationships.
And though we work so hard to have the OPPOSITE of that...
...these negative experiences tend to get become deeply rooted in our unconscious minds.
Causing endless cycles of anxiety, complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD), and depression.
Over time, these cycles shape our unique way of connecting with others, attaching ourselves to people, and feeling safe.
But in a toxic relationship with extreme highs and lows...
...that then becomes the relationship trauma type.
This is why most of my clients who try therapy still keep getting hurt by selfish, angry men.
They are always trying to solve the symptoms of the problem...
...not the cause.
To heal, you have to fix the CAUSE of the problem.