Driven career women aren't ambitious for no reason.
They are ambitious because they want a financially secure, stable and overall good life.
For their children. For their partners.
A life that's the complete opposite of their traumatic childhood.
A life that they were robbed of since they were born.
By narcissistic, toxic or absent parents.
And these accomplished women truly, deeply believed they had found "the one."
Until he wasn't.
And just like that, he brings to surface every self-doubt, every crippling fear and anxiety we've ever had.
That we're the narcissist ourselves (not true.)
That we can never have true love (also not true.)
That we're not good enough (definitely not true too!)
There are 3 types of narcissists who woo accomplished women:
- The Haplessly Incompetent Narc or HIN.
He loves to love you and loves to need you. He's a victim and is hopeless without you. - The Capable, Sexy Narc or CSN.
He's sexy but has one huge personal flaw (drinking, overspending, etc.) - The Intelligent SoftBoi or ISB, who is a combination of 1 & 2.
He's sexy in the brain, but quite incompetent in real life.
All these types break us down bit by bit.
The HIN (Haplessly Incompetent Narc) will romance you, then leech and discard.
The CSN (Capable Sexy Narc) will impress you, then be passive-aggressive and blindside.
The ISB (Intelligent SoftBoi) will soften you with his vulnerability, but then weaponizes everything and subtly punishes.
Many of my clients have tried it all to heal...
...to regain their sense of self-worth and confidence...
...while purging narcissistic trauma for good.
And although some of these methods did help...
...most completely didn't work, or didn't make much difference.
And there's a reason why.
The reality is, there's a much deeper, rooted issue.
One that causes all of my clients to stay stuck in self-destructive cycles.
That is?
Your Relationship Trauma Type.
Blue Fawn, White Fawn, Red Fawn, Pink Flight, or Double Fawn.
I have observed that every woman I have worked with has experienced significant trauma in past relationships.
Unfortunately, these negative experiences tend to get become deeply rooted in their unconscious mind.
Causing endless cycles of anxiety, complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD), and depression.
Over time, these cycles shape our unique way of connecting with others, attaching ourselves to people, and feeling safe.
But in a toxic relationship with extreme highs and lows...
...that then becomes the relationship trauma type.
This is why most of my clients who try therapy still keep getting hurt by selfish, angry men.
They are always trying to solve the symptoms of the problem...
...not the cause.
To heal, you have to fix the CAUSE of the problem.